Nature
Ask
Meditation
Action
Sleep
Think
Exercise
Sorry this is so long. But i guess i needed it. Have been pretty stressed lately. Situational stress I think. But, stress is stress and many around me are stressed, so it has been on my mind...
I just had to google how to spell exercise. It was because I hesitated on it. If I just did it quick, I would have remembered, ha! I cannot overthink or multi task anymore. I think it is a product of age and overload. I have this a lot, plus more and more senior moments! Instead of letting this get me down, the past year or so since I almost lost my Granny - I include the thought that even though I am feeling my age more and more I am privileged to reach late middle age.
I read a post recently on one of my FB groups I like and the person was asking how to purge stress. So I thought about it. I have found myself thinking out this before I read this particular post. I have thought about my own personal needs to try and figure out why I feel stress. I use a coping skill. I went through above and put some of my coping skills into an acronym. These are not in order of importance.
Nature - is what my mother used to tell me I needed. When I was a young woman away from her in the city working on my career, she would sense on the phone if I was tired and say you need to go outside. When is the last time you got out of the city. Now you will even hear people put a label on this called "grounding". My mother was ahead of her time. I think the thing about nature is that it makes me aware the universe is much bigger than I - and that immediately changes my perspective. Whatever problem or discomfort I have, I am not alone and I am not the center of the universe. It will pass even if I do nothing.
Action - can I do something about the cause of the stress? Can I make a list. Can I figure out the worst case scenario and figure out a way to deal with that? Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Maybe nothing even close to the worst will happen, but if I have planned for it JIC, then I am more ready. I wonder if I should give up this philosophy, but old habits die hard. The best action I can take is to just plan sometimes. Planning helps steer me toward thinking before I take action and planning is an action in itself. Can I plan a reward now or later to get me through something hard?
Meditation is sort of the exact opposite of Action, although the better I get at harnessing my thoughts, the closer it resembles action to me. Focus on my breath, my heartbeat, my place in the universe, being still and present and I am automatically calmer. Google the vagus nerve and how important it is. It is truly amazing how much this nerve impacts our wellbeing. And it is amazing how just some deep breathing will affect the vagus nerve. I mentioned this to my cousin who was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and she laughed and said "Vegas?!". Well, it does sound the same. I do think humor is important and it an integral part of my demeanor - but if I am too stressed, I cannot find the humor at first.
Ask for help. Either from a person or from the universe. To me, asking the universe is prayer. I give thanks for my blessings and ask for God to help me. Even if you don't believe in God, by being a living creature we can look to the universe and to science. Energy is undeniable. If you need to feel better, harness energy. Energy from art, music, laughter, beauty, nature, love. Read an inspiring poem, book, etc. I swear just the power of classical music can reduce my stress. I often listen to celestial space music to help me sleep.
Sleep. I have a chronic health condition and I have been trying to learn how to deal with it for most of my adult life. My condition affects my digestion, my skin, my joints and my eyes. It also gives me brain fog. I get very depressed about my condition sometimes. I have learned that stress and lack of sleep affect me very quickly when I have stress and lack of rest. I have learned that by resting, I feel better. This was a very hard adaptation for me. I have never been one to get 8 hours of sleep. Most of my education and professional life I got 4 - 6. Well, not anymore I regularly get 8 and sometimes I even get 10. And it is ok, my arse did not fall off! Isn't that something I deserve without anything more? Certainly something I have earned after working so hard so many years. I plan to really experiment with this, maybe even take a nap once in a while (gasp).
Think. Think of what is causing the stress. Not the cause of the feeling of stress, but why whatever trigger created a reaction in me. Is it something real? Am I in danger? Am I doing something that is inconsistent with my values? Am i in fear? Am I angry? Am I tired? Do i have a need that is not being met? I took a nutrition course through my temp employer about 5 years ago. It had to do with making good food and eating choices. Many of our food choices are made out of emotion. It taught me that we all have essential needs and if we can tune into what these
needs are, then we will be better able to find ways to meet these needs without food or other harmful substances and behaviors. My vital needs are: spirituality, order/closure, financial security, give/do for others, personal time, being with people, movement.
Exercise. For me, this has been such a part of my personal hygiene that it is as normal as bathing and eating. If i do not move, i pay for it. I have had an active program of movement since i graduated from high school. When i was in public school, we had PE. PE lead to some sports and dance in high school and that caused me to think about how exercise benefits us. I have done it regularly every since - 30+ years. Not only does it cause neurotransmitters to be produced in our bodies - but it causes strength and tolerance, confidence and helps me clear my head. I can't live without it. I plan to be doing yoga and walking as long as I am literally able to move.
I hope someone reads this. I get so much inspiration and connection from the things i read, especially blogs because they are so personal and not agenda driven. I hope someone can connect with me on this entry. What have i left out? What do you do to combat stress?
I do all of what you do. I find the most beneficial to me is to make sure I have periods during the day of absolute silence. No phones, radio, television, anything. If the phone rings (yes, I have a landline, I don't use a cell--if I'm not home I'm not home.) while I am in silence, I let it ring. As my mother used to say, if it's important, they'll call back. I also eliminated social media, All OF IT. This requires me to sit down at my antique secretary and actually WRITE and MAIL letters to stay in touch with my college friends, and relatives. Writing letters is something I enjoy, so it also helps keep me balanced.
ReplyDeleteI am also tempted to reduce/eliminate social media more and more. Essentially anything that is not adding to my quieter less busy lifestyle - I am going to declutter that behavior/influence. Thank you so much for commenting.
DeleteYes I can very much relate to your post. I find as I get older I just cannot push myself like I used to when I was younger. I have a much lower tolerance for stress and I get sicker more often when I do to much. I'm actually off work today again after being sick overnight. A few years ago I would have gone to work anyway but now I take time off when I need it. The things that help me with stress: I let my phone go to message unless its family & I call people back if and when it suits me. Same with email. I don't friend people on social media, I just follow sewing groups I enjoy. walking and meditating helps and sometimes just watching shows I like on TV or audio books. Mostly as I get older I don't worry so much about what others think which helps and I just rest more.
ReplyDeleteHear this a lot and I agree, not caring so much about what others think and am grateful this is something many of us achieve as we age. I also hope for this as I see our younger family age and also I hear acceptance in your post. Thank you!
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