I had a massage few Sat ago...woman told me that saying I had a mess/tension area was negative and I should say tight/hardworking muscles...okay, it is a little spacey touchy feely for me...but it is after all, true. And really effective...So, lately I have been really trying to rewire the self talk. After all, how we think is how we believe and how we believe is how we see the world and deal with others. And it is the origin of our basic feelings.
I am getting ready to move to a very small town and have none of my friends around, except my DH of course. And I am friends with his awesome Sister. And my sister is an hour away. I have learned that it is not so much what we say to our companions, as how we make them feel. I have a couple of people I dearly love that make me feel stressed and uncomfortable because of their own turmoil. I think it has to do with their turmoil, not me...but it makes me want to limit my time with them. If I am tired or depleated myself, especially. I want to be sure that I am not that type of person as I age. My mom used to give me lots of advice about how to get along with people. When you are a female in elementary or middle school...or even high school...you can really have a hard time finding your footing with other young, insecure girls. My mom used to tell me that people want to hang around someone who is friendly and smiles a lot. She used to tell me to smile and act like I was happy, even if I wasn't. I remember thinking how stupid that sounded. I think that is what she was trying to convey though - a) if I act happy, I will be happy and b) people feel happier around other happy people.
I had lunch with my aunts Sat and we watched the movie "I Can Only Imagine" and I though a lot about my parents. They both died of cancer. My mom loved her kids unconditionally. My dad did, as long as you did not do something he disapproved of. And my dad was such a narcissist that it was hard to tell what he wanted, I guess someone who reflected the things he liked (independence, confidence, intelligence, hard work, happy, attractive, fun, talent)...if you were less than, he either used that weakness to target (in my case it was my weight - he would tease me about my weight constantly) or he would just sort of go off and do his own thing because he saw you as someone who had nothing to offer him. When I was younger, if I had seen a movie like this I would have had strong flashback feelings and would have cried and had to go home. But after all the work I have done dealing with things (memories, feelings, resentments, regrets), it just caused me to reflect and then be glad that I too have found a comfortable personal day to day relationship with God, a God as I understand Him. A God who loves me unconditionally. My aunts and I talked about the movie and the complicated love of family in context of my niece's upcoming wedding next month. I agree that God has a plan and I may not recognize it yet, but I am content in the knowledge that it will be revealed. They reminded me that my sister did this same type of move to my mom, i.e. pretty much told her unceremoniously that she was getting married and eloped. They acted surprised I did not recall this. I reminded them that at the time, my mom was dying and my husband was taking chemo for his cancer. I have very limited memories of that time. I have very limited memories of most things! HA
I have shown our house 4 times now. It seems that 1 of the 4 is ready to buy right now (a house - not nec MY house) and 2 of the 4 have to sell a house first. So, one of the people we have shown it to is a man who lives nearby...he and wife want to downsize. His wife is flight attendant - out of town till today. We see if they come see it today after I get off work. Whether we sell it on contingency...that will be something we have to consider...But we really liked this man and I sort of hope it works out that he is the one who buys it.
We have done alright living so neatly in a house we can show quickly, but it will get old read quick. This weekend we did a bit of scraping/cleaning up of our deck, but we can't catch a break weather-wise. It rained a little bit both Sat and Sun (and has rained 3 of the prior Sundays). It should dry out well today and then I am going to at least paint the perimeter of if tonight and maybe we can finish tomorrow at the latest. That is cutting it close - DH has his elbow surgery Wed and I have to drive to RH state to take a 3 day continue education seminar Wed afternoon.
This last project has hung over us for 2 months. Will be such a relief too get it done. Then maybe we will really be "ready" to sell and the forces will "let it go". Fingers crossed.
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I recently listened to the Stephanie Madolf Mack memoir "The End of Normal". She gives a quote that made me stop what I was doing and write it down: "...These banalities of everyday life aren't anything you think to preserve, much less cherish..." But anyone who has been through any type of trauma or heartbreak will tell you they totally are. And I think that was what she was trying to say. Her husband was Bernie Madolf's oldest son and was devastated to the point of suicide by his father's crime. She had 2 young children with Mark Madolf before he died.
I am actually looking forward to hot yoga tonight, Tues night eagle pose eluded me on my left leg (my stronger balance leg) but I totally nailed it on the right! Yes. I still can barely suffer through the pose where he makes us stand on one leg and grab the other foot with both hands while face down to bent knee, then we straighten the knee keeping our head down to knee (I don't know what this one is called). But I feel progress being made...I will get there! I just recently got into a handstand position and could hold it (with a spotter). I cannot get into it fluidly, I do a bit of huffing and puffing and maybe even a squeal, but I can support myself with my arms. That is the first step...actually that is not true...the first step is saying "I can do this".
Have shown my house twice now. I am showing it again this weekend I think. And hopefully finishing all projects by cleaning/sandling/touching up my deck so we can put the sign in the yard Sunday. Hopefully that will get us some more traffic the next weekend. That weekend it is our neighborhood garage sale and the parade of homes - both happening weekend of April 25. Of course I will be out of town at a continuing education seminar, but I am thinking of taking the dogs with me (we have a doggy door and a fenced yard at RH - so they can come and go while I am gone all day). And then DH can focus on showing the house if nec. He will be recovering from arm surgery (it is minor - some nerve damage, they will clean up some impingement happening at elbow). So it will be perfect excuse for him to sit around and relax (and show the house, fingers crossed!).
The woman last night who came has a buyers agent and this buyers agent has really worked me over good about the commission. I finally suggested that we finish the discussion if her client actually liked my house. Geez, why are we even worrying about it now?! This is a young divorcing mother of 2 teenage sons. A nurse. Her parents were with her. Very nice, from California. The agent let me know that the parents are capable of writing a check for cash. Note: she did not say they were GOING to pay with cash. So much posturing. Uggggh. I HATE it. I spare all the teeth gnashing and griping for DH and basically take it out on my friend at work who is 1) well versed in buying and selling property and 2) is from California. He told me surely we had sold it when I told him the buyers agent called me after the showing discussing some of my homes weaknesses the ceiling (our huge vaulted ceiling has been repaired/spot painted from water damage from a storm back in 2012), the carpet downstairs is old and shows dirt and our deck needs to be repainted. Well, I laughed and said we are waiting for the weather to cooperate to do the deck and the carpet is easily replaced - with someone's personal preference and the ceiling is what it is. It is not hideous to look at, not really all that noticeable, but a discerning eye can surely see it and plus, we will have to disclose the water damage anyway. DH and I were surprised nothing was said about our old white appliances. Was she posturing or just thinking down the road if she does work with me. I don't know. I just know that this house is going to sell soon. The sooner the better as we try to live in the house with 2 dogs and work full time downtown - 20 miles away. But, it sure is fun living in such a clean and uncluttered home in the meanwhile with almost all projects done (except that pesky deck!).
After the showing last night, we exchanged a set of bath towel bars at the home store and went out for dinner and it was nice to just relax and not work on either house for an hour. We talked a bit out our future and it was nice. Then we came home and watched Josh Gates on TV. HIs new show is called Legendary Locations and we enjoyed it. And I worked on this afgan that I am making for my friend who is fostering my kitty all these months. Her favorite color is blue so I used a medium bright cornflower sort of blue and a baby blue (it looks white in the photo, but is not) in this fun chevron pattern. I know she will like it. I have to sort of hurry though, because I find I don't work as well on crochet in the warmer weather. I am outside as much as I can be and it is too warm working on a blanket on my lap in the heat. Happy Thursday!
I recently listened to the Stephanie Madolf Mack memoir "The End of Normal". She gives a quote that made me stop what I was doing and write it down: "...These banalities of everyday life aren't anything you think to preserve, much less cherish..." But anyone who has been through any type of trauma or heartbreak will tell you they totally are. And I think that was what she was trying to say. Her husband was Bernie Madolf's oldest son and was devastated to the point of suicide by his father's crime. She had 2 young children with Mark Madolf before he died.
I am actually looking forward to hot yoga tonight, Tues night eagle pose eluded me on my left leg (my stronger balance leg) but I totally nailed it on the right! Yes. I still can barely suffer through the pose where he makes us stand on one leg and grab the other foot with both hands while face down to bent knee, then we straighten the knee keeping our head down to knee (I don't know what this one is called). But I feel progress being made...I will get there! I just recently got into a handstand position and could hold it (with a spotter). I cannot get into it fluidly, I do a bit of huffing and puffing and maybe even a squeal, but I can support myself with my arms. That is the first step...actually that is not true...the first step is saying "I can do this".
Have shown my house twice now. I am showing it again this weekend I think. And hopefully finishing all projects by cleaning/sandling/touching up my deck so we can put the sign in the yard Sunday. Hopefully that will get us some more traffic the next weekend. That weekend it is our neighborhood garage sale and the parade of homes - both happening weekend of April 25. Of course I will be out of town at a continuing education seminar, but I am thinking of taking the dogs with me (we have a doggy door and a fenced yard at RH - so they can come and go while I am gone all day). And then DH can focus on showing the house if nec. He will be recovering from arm surgery (it is minor - some nerve damage, they will clean up some impingement happening at elbow). So it will be perfect excuse for him to sit around and relax (and show the house, fingers crossed!).
The woman last night who came has a buyers agent and this buyers agent has really worked me over good about the commission. I finally suggested that we finish the discussion if her client actually liked my house. Geez, why are we even worrying about it now?! This is a young divorcing mother of 2 teenage sons. A nurse. Her parents were with her. Very nice, from California. The agent let me know that the parents are capable of writing a check for cash. Note: she did not say they were GOING to pay with cash. So much posturing. Uggggh. I HATE it. I spare all the teeth gnashing and griping for DH and basically take it out on my friend at work who is 1) well versed in buying and selling property and 2) is from California. He told me surely we had sold it when I told him the buyers agent called me after the showing discussing some of my homes weaknesses the ceiling (our huge vaulted ceiling has been repaired/spot painted from water damage from a storm back in 2012), the carpet downstairs is old and shows dirt and our deck needs to be repainted. Well, I laughed and said we are waiting for the weather to cooperate to do the deck and the carpet is easily replaced - with someone's personal preference and the ceiling is what it is. It is not hideous to look at, not really all that noticeable, but a discerning eye can surely see it and plus, we will have to disclose the water damage anyway. DH and I were surprised nothing was said about our old white appliances. Was she posturing or just thinking down the road if she does work with me. I don't know. I just know that this house is going to sell soon. The sooner the better as we try to live in the house with 2 dogs and work full time downtown - 20 miles away. But, it sure is fun living in such a clean and uncluttered home in the meanwhile with almost all projects done (except that pesky deck!).
After the showing last night, we exchanged a set of bath towel bars at the home store and went out for dinner and it was nice to just relax and not work on either house for an hour. We talked a bit out our future and it was nice. Then we came home and watched Josh Gates on TV. HIs new show is called Legendary Locations and we enjoyed it. And I worked on this afgan that I am making for my friend who is fostering my kitty all these months. Her favorite color is blue so I used a medium bright cornflower sort of blue and a baby blue (it looks white in the photo, but is not) in this fun chevron pattern. I know she will like it. I have to sort of hurry though, because I find I don't work as well on crochet in the warmer weather. I am outside as much as I can be and it is too warm working on a blanket on my lap in the heat. Happy Thursday!
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